Whenever we come across situations where bigotry, discrimination, or any form of injustice towards minorities is present, we are usually quick to say that the people that hold these thoughts are uneducated. We believe education is the key to broadening minds and shaping perspectives. Education ultimately teaches you to be humble, appreciate differences, cultivates a sense of appreciation and equality.
But what about the people who have grown up in this day and age, received top notch education, and still hold illiterate opinions?
The people who seem to have a good grasp of balancing the practicalities of life and also a seemingly deep understanding of deen (religion)?
Then why is it, that we have educated men in our society* who are looking to get married to women who have been fortunate enough/interested in pursuing studies past their O-Level certifications – and yet want them to leave their career and be an at-home wife?
This is clearly not sitting well with me because I am unable to grasp the logic.
More importantly, it astounds me that anyone could have the audacity to take away a woman’s choice in this matter.
I’m sure there are women who love to dedicate their time at home a 100% with or without an education.
I’m sure there are women who juggle a career and a household as best as they can.
I’m sure there are women who may or may not neglect one or the other.
What I’m not so sure about is their choice in the matter.
It is imperative that everyone’s choice on how to live their own lives should be respected and honoured. If a woman wishes to further her career post-marriage, she should be allowed to. If she wishes to quit, she should be allowed to. If she wishes to start her career after marriage, she should be allowed to.
I don’t understand how any educated man could purposefully stifle his partner’s choice, but then that got me thinking that perhaps education doesn’t always solve everything, and doesn’t always work in the same way for everyone. Maybe it is a person’s upbringing and primary family environment that has a bigger part to play in a matter so fundamental in everyone’s lives.
But then, how do you show such people to cut away their strings of cultural conservatism?
*our society: refers to Pakistani/South Asian ethnicity.
Disclaimer: This is a general issue that I’ve personally seen, and my thoughts are not in any way, shape or form, to be applied to the entire male population. It’s odd to even have to put this in a disclaimer but, nitpickers, this one’s for you. Image taken from http://www.splitshire.com.